Couples Therapy
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
– Brené Brown
Relationships are awesome, but they are hard work.
Do you have someone in your life that you really feel like is “your person”? Connecting or communicating with that person may be difficult. Perhaps it’s time to address the hurdles so that you and your person can move to the next level in your relationship.
Couples come to see me to talk about various things. Some of the major things are communication challenges, intimacy, deciding whether to get married, talking about whether to have kids, navigating different careers and families and how to be their most authentic selves and not feel completely absorbed by the other person at times.
Let’s give your relationship the attention it deserves!
Someone told me once that couples therapy can go one of two ways – it will either help the couple decide to stay together or help them recognize they need to break up. While that may seem brutally honest, generally, those tend to be two main outcomes of the process.
While the positives of seeking couples therapy are many, so are the negatives of not reaching out. Couples can get stuck in unhealthy dynamics and imbalances, and it’s hard to see that when you’re in it.
It can be difficult to engage in tough conversations or be honest about some of the challenges you’re experiencing if there isn’t someone there to provide support and keep the room safe(r). You don’t want to end up saying to yourself, “Why didn’t we make this a priority?”
Learn the texture of your relationship.
My therapist was talking to me a while back about the “texture of relationships.” I thought it was a great metaphor, and they were really saying that each relationship has a different texture depending on your life together. It’s helpful to learn what that is and expect it – so you can work within it and not expect everything to be “perfect” – especially in the complex world we are living in today.
There are many different dynamics we can get stuck in when participating in intimate relationships – especially when work, life, friends, pets, and kids may be involved.
It’s invaluable to have a space where you can talk through issues, express your different perspectives while someone objective holds the space – allowing each of you to be your own person and where you don’t have to “take care” of the other person.
Couples therapy creates a better understanding, improves communication skills between you and your partner, and provides the opportunity to increase shared support.
Couples therapy can restore emotional and physical intimacy and help uncover the causes of some major conflicts. Usually, clients comment, “Why didn’t we do this sooner?”
Email NOW to set up an initial session – your relationship is worth it!